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There was a breakfast party for the entire office (I worked in the corporate office) last Friday….and my boss gave a very lovely 10-15 minute speech about me.  Here are some photos…

Here’s my boss, in the blue shirt, giving his spiel to/about me.  🙂

They had a lovely autumn bouquet of flowers, and tucked in it were 7 gift cards of $100 each for various stores, restaurants, and Amazon.  I was FLOORED.  The entire office chipped in, and the card has all of their names.  Again, FLOORED.
Then on Tuesday, my last official (half) day, my department brought in donuts, and then took me to Lucille’s (my favorite BBQ restaurant)…and there was another gift basket there with more gift cards, about $200 worth, including my favorite steak restaurant, Fleming’s.  
THEN, I come home, and hubby has a dozen ‘congratulations’ and ‘officially retired’ balloons, a bottle of champagne, and gifts waiting for me!  I WAS FLOORED EVEN MORE.
A shirt he gave me.  In purple, no less.  Oh, does this man know me.  🙂

A wine glass he gave me.  If only my left kidney would cooperate for me ever having this big of a glass of wine.  (this is a HUGE glass.)  But still a fun gift.  LOL

I purposely didn’t eat a big lunch (but brought home 2 leftover big, beefy ribs)…because we had planned to go out to dinner, and we did, to Outback.  I have enough leftovers from those meals, and our anniversary dinner last Saturday…to last me the rest of the week.  LOL
So, I am officially done.  It was SO SURREAL.  I still don’t know if it’s completely sunk in, that this is it for life, now.
But I’m loving it! 
And now, time to get back into blogging!  I can’t wait to see what you guys are up to!
Love you, and thank you for waiting for my return!  🙂


That’s how many working days I have left.

Things have started to heat up re that at work.  Job descriptions being updated.  Talk of a co-worker replacing me, but then who replaces her, etc.

I’m just eager to put this all behind me.  My boss, who only praises me once a year (at review time)…was forced into a situation yesterday to comment. (in a small group setting, someone asked him how HE was handling my impending departure.)   He was actually pretty nice, and admitted because I have been SO good/competent/knowledgeable, for so long, (11 years anniversary is in 10 days)…it’s been extremely easy for him to take me  and all that I do so extremely well…for granted. Ya think, buddy?  Geesh.

But, I’m staying above it all.  Just doing my job, not letting anything get to me, because I can handle anything for 50 working days.  🙂

Sorry I’ve been away.  A long time pet’s death, a long time friend’s completely unexpected/sudden death this week, all the political crap, issues with my poor mom (she turns 92 on Monday but literally wishes aloud now that she was dead already)…it’s been kind of a rough summer.  No excuse, but it’s all I’ve got.

I will start getting to your blogs more regularly.  I apologize more for my mea culpa on that, than my lack of posting here.

Hugs to you all!

All official and stuff

Well, I’ve notified my boss that my last day will be October 30th.

I’ve told my closest co-workers, but let them know it’s not a secret, so I’m hearing from more and more office co-workers.  Word’s out.  I’m retiring.

I just got tired of the secrets, etc.  I just want to live my life genuinely and out in the open.

So, the official countdown begins.  I have 65.5 more work days left (not counting if I take any time off before then.) (which I don’t plan on.  I want the biggest final check possible.  LOL)

It’s hard to contain the excitement, but I don’t have to anymore!   I smile more broadly, and I laugh deeper, and little things just don’t get to me at work anymore.

I’m an official short-timer.  It feels AWESOME.

Save the date!

Well, after MUCH thought on the subject, and after a thorough discussion with Mr. Silver, we have agreed that I shall make my last day working full time (i.e., retire) on Tuesday, October 30th.  NOT 12/12.

My reasons?  We want to put the house on the market right after the holidays the beginning of January.  (I know that’s a traditionally poor time to sell a home, but not as much here in mild winter southern California.)  (the housing market here is very robust right now.  I think the average sell time, even for a townhome like ours, is less than a few weeks.)  ANYHOW, I want some time after I retire, before we start the fishbowl existence of selling a home and then packing up and moving elsewhere, to:

1.  RELAX.  Yes, I’d like a few weeks to a month of just enjoying the calm of being newly retired.
2.  Do some deep cleaning, maybe even boxing up some of the minutea.

If I waited until 12/12 to retire as originally planned, that wouldn’t happen.  I’d be smack dab in the middle of holiday preparations and activity.  I want a month before that to just UNWIND (and build strength for the sell/move.)

Now our work week runs from Thursdays to Wednesdays.  So generally they like to start new employees on a Thursday and have people quit (or terminated) on a Wednesday.  But that would mean retiring on Halloween.  I don’t want that!  I want to go out to dinner the night I retire to celebrate.  I wouldn’t want to do that Halloween night.  So I’ll retire the day before instead.  My work can just ‘deal’ with me quitting a day before their ‘precious Wednesday.’  What are they going to do, fire me?  LOL

Yep, so it’s set.  I have only 89 more days of working full time left before me.  I’m over the moon about that!

I will tell them at work about the change of date (I had already informed my boss about 12/12 a couple of months ago)…the end of August.  That will still give them a 60 day notice.  Plenty of time.  My boss even said a few weeks ago, in relation to someone else leaving (actually, a previous co-worker of ours had gone to another company several years ago, announced his retirement this April, and they had him replaced in less than 30 days…and my boss was agreeing how rotten that was, and/but that 30 days notice was plenty of time to give any company; no need to announce much sooner than that.)  (so he’ll be okay with my still giving him 60 days.)

Anyhoo, enough of the details that probably only matter to me and my hubby.  I’m so jazzed!  woot woot!!!!

retirement musings

Well, last October, I decided I would be retiring the end of 2018.  (totally arbitrary date.)  But I didn’t tell my boss/co-workers until 4/3 this year.  I have to admit, from almost the moment I told them, my attitude at work got (mostly silently) pretty crappy.  I know, ‘short-timer’s syndrome’ and all that.  I started talking to my hubby, did I HAVE to wait until December to retire?  I mean, it was an arbitrary date.  The thing is, very shortly after I retire, we move into the ‘sell the house move to AZ’ phase.  He has things he wants to do here to get it in better shape for selling, and intended to accomplish that all this summer.  He asked me to at least wait until the end of summer to retire.  That seemed more than fair.  I even said, “I’ll try to go to October, but not sure”….

So that’s where he and I stood before my gallbladder revolted last Sunday and got removed.

I had been diagnosed with ‘mild ulcerative colitis’ (UC) -is there such a thing, really?  I mean, sure, compared to serious UC, but no UC is really mild.  ANYHOW, here I am, on  post-surgery day 8 now, and my stomach (internal and external) pains are mostly gone from the surgery, but the D from the liver trying to figure out how to process bile without the gallbladder remains.  Mostly in the morning until about 9:30 am or so.  I might have 1-2 other ‘attack’s throughout the day, but the time varies.  From all that I read, this is common in 10-40% of the women who have their gallbladders removed.  It doesn’t surprise me that at my age with UC, I’m in that group.  For those that have this, it supposedly takes 4-6 weeks for the liver/rest of the body adjust and normalize.  But for some, that never happens.

I don’t know what group I will be in.  I don’t mind having D at work; anyone with UC is used to that.  It’s the fact that the amount of time between I realize it’s coming and when it HITS is less than a minute.  Not a problem at home.  But at work (let alone the 30 minute drive to and from work)…I’m down 2 long hallways from the bathroom.  I really don’t want to have to wear Depends at work, let alone have several D accidents at work in them.  (sorry for the graphic images/detail.)

I go see the surgical nurse on Thursday afternoon to get my staples removed and get my updated release for work.  I need to know the plan prior to that.  I need to contact my H/R department (I think since I’m on short term leave, it has to be through them rather than directly with my boss), and explain this and I have two options for them to choose from:

1.  Let me work from home 7:30 am-9:30 am, drive to work, take only a half hour lunch, and leave at my normal 4:30.  This keeps me at 8 hours per day, normal work hours, but gives me the chance to handle my morning ‘problems’ at home.

2.  Just work a shortened day, 10:00 am-4:30.  That cuts my work schedule down to 6 hours, because by law I’d have to take at least a 30 min. lunch break.  Still keeps me at home during the problem time.

Either works for me, but of course financially we’d prefer # 1 even though #2 would be easier on me.

I am going to let them know tomorrow, because they should have at least a day to talk it over and decide.

The thing is, I have no crystal ball.  I can’t tell my doctor or my employer how long this might be necessary.  It might be a week.  It might be 4 weeks.  It might be forever.

So of course, they have to decide if that is acceptable.  They might think it’s okay for a couple weeks, maybe even a month (as I fall further behind at work)…or they might not.  At which point, I have to decide if I can try it back to 100% normal, or just give up and retire.

I had that discussion with hubby yesterday.  I said it might be out of my hands (when I retire) at this point.  He of course still wants me to make it to early September, but said if either my body or my company won’t cooperate, we can’t control that.  The proverbial ‘it just is what it is.’

So I just don’t know.  Every month we stay here after I retire but before we move to AZ, it’s going to cost us about $1000 more than if we were in AZ.  So of course we don’t want that to go on too long.  But I’m in no condition to help prep for a sell and move to another state at the moment, anyhow.

Again, I just don’t know.  I’m trying to just be chill about it.  It really is out of my control.  C’est la vie.  But for a control freak, it isn’t exactly easy letting go and just letting fate win.

I’m already trying to come to terms with how behind I will be at work.  I’ll have over 500 emails to deal with upon my return, let alone the work itself. (they cut off our access to email when on leave to keep us from checking/doing work.)   It will take me a couple of days (at least) just to catch up on email.  But I can’t stress myself out over it. I can only do the best I can every day and just that’s it.  I get caught up whenever I do, or learn to come to terms that I might not ever be ‘caught up’ there again, and that’s okay too.

Anvilcloud had a great comment to me yesterday:  “Would you consider retiring a few months early and ending that ordeal and just enjoying life as much as possible?”

Little did he know I’d already been contemplating this.  I really need to try my best to get through August, but if my body or my company won’t let me, I’m prepared for that too.  I mean, this might just be a situation for another week or two, and then I’ll be fine the rest of the way until I choose my retirement day.  I’m only considering what happens IF I don’t fully recover digestively…

so, today, I just don’t know.  Tomorrow, I copy a great deal of this post and send it in an email to H/R….and see what happens from there.

Anvil, if it were up to me, I’d cash it in now.  Or one month from now.  But I’m not the only one in this picture, and what hubby is asking for isn’t unreasonable, if my body can handle it.  I don’t begrudge him his request at all; it makes perfect sense in a perfect world.  This isn’t a perfect world, but I’m only Day 8.  It might be a close to perfect world again very soon…

p.s.  I’ve removed my retirement counter on the sidebar.  Because I haven’t a clue when it will happen, except to know that 12/12/18 would be the very last day, at the longest.  🙂

Another hobby I want to take up in retirement

…Studying about the Native Americans tribes and history.  I mean, we are moving to Arizona.  Plenty of history and current stuff going on re Native Americans…including the fact that if I can’t still play daily fantasy football there by then, it will be their fault.  (LOL-not holding it against them.  Much…)

No, seriously.  I am fascinated.  I caught a glimpse of a book about our mistreatment of them when we were at the Presidio in SF this summer.  I almost bought it but I really prefer reading on my Kindle now, not traditional books.  But so much on this subject available to me.  I want to take advantage of that.

So one more item to add to this growing list of retirement hobbies to pursue:

1.  studying meteorology (weather.)
2.  learning to play pool.  Good.
3.  studying home architecture, with an emphasis in the Craftsman style.
4.  study the history of Native Americans.
5.  do volunteer work of some nature.
6.  work up to 10 hours a week, if it’s something I can do at home on the pc.  If not, nah, unless money becomes tight.

Yep, this is fun.  Of course there will be lots of reading for pure pleasure, and catching up on movies and intelligent tv series I never got around to.  And lots of exercise in the pool that will be at our home.  That is near the top of the home wish list; if I’m giving up the ocean, I want to look out my back windows/sliding doors and see blue water.  🙂

If you are retired, what do you enjoy doing now to fill your time and keep your mind active?  Besides blogging, of course?  🙂


So, I’ve gone and done it, with my husband’s blessings.

I’ve picked my retirement date.



I can’t tell you what a joy it was to actually pick a date!  I knew it was going to be between the end of next year, and 4/1/19 (what date I would have to stay to, to earn any potential 2018 bonus.)  But the company hasn’t been doing so great the past 2 years, after about 3-4 stellar years, so considering all of the physical crap I’ve been going through the past 1.5 years, it’s just not worth me staying on the off chance I get some typical 40-50% of a full bonus.  Just.not.worth.it.

And since staying to 12/31 of any given year has nothing to do with receiving the bonus, I’d rather be done BEFORE the holidays, not right after.  And since they like us to quit on a Wed. (pay periods are Th.-Wed.), 12/12 seemed like the perfect day!

Hubby is fine with it.

Of course, this all assumes nothing awful happens to me between now and then, forcing me into retirement sooner.  Fingers crossed on that…

I can’t tell you what an instant BURDEN was lifted once I had a firm, agreed-upon date in my head!  (no, I’m not telling anyone at work until about 2 months in advance.  2 months is plenty of notice.)

I mean, I feel so excited, so aimed with laser focus (and related joy!)